Catching the Joy That Comes with the Holiday Season

The Season of Stories

Christmas is more than a holiday—it’s a season steeped in storytelling. From Dickens’ A Christmas Carol to modern holiday films, the Christmas season has always been fertile ground for writers to engage readers. There is a unique blend of joy, grief, nostalgia, reflection, and inspiration. All of this gives writers like me a unique blend of topics to choose from. 

I live in the foothills and sometimes we get snow. So, I will definitely commit to feeling nostalgic with a dash of grief as I watch Hallmark's The Christmas Card, view the decorated streets, warm firepits, and sometimes, snow in Nevada City and Grass Valley.  Of course, there are the roasted chestnuts served hot and crunchy, and carolers that patrol the streets during Cornish and Victorian Christmas that we celebrate each year. 

I do miss the family Christmas' where Dennis had meltdowns over putting together toys with incomplete directions. I can still hear him yelling. Then there was the year our oldest, Shannon, desperately wanted a new hair style so she begged for a permanent. We woke up Christmas morning to Little Orphan Annie sitting under the tree, her youngest brother Ryan running around bare from the waist down because he refused to wear pants, and Denny our middle-child completely unperturbed.  The only way to get a rise out of Denny was to discuss the nature of the universe. It was either that or he was chasing fairies.  Everything out of that kid's mouth was either why or hey Mommy did you see her?  Of course, I never did see her, but I followed him around the house as he chased her often enough.  By the time Shannon was in high school, she put her hair back to normal, Ryan had learned to wear pants, and while Denny still contemplated the nature of the universe, he no longer saw his fairy.  

I have a cold so over the weekend I was facetimed as my daughter chased her one-year-old grandson around the family room attempting to distract him from eating the pretty lights or breaking them. Whichever came first.  I wanted to tell her to put the lighted decorations up so she could enjoy the moment. They disappear so fast.  Before she knows it, he'll be grown and the one in the mommy oven will be chasing fairies, hopefully with pants on. 

This year we all agreed to cut back on presents and to donate the money normally used to worthy causes. We all have everything we need and even too much of what we want. As I sit here gazing out the window over a fog shrouded path, I am reminded of all the gifts I've been given. I would not change a thing in my life even though Christmas comes bittersweet nowadays. 

I find myself revisiting Christmas' as a child where the Christmas tree brought me hope that I would see my dad again. I was five when he died and for whatever reason, Christmas trees remind me of him. As does the music and the snow. I remember the last Christmas he was with us. He loved music and he loved to build things. He had built a contraption; I think it was called a hi-fi and ran the music out to our front porch. It wasn't going well, and he wasn't pleased, but when he finally got it to work our entire street was showered with the songs of Christmas. I remember standing next to plastic carolers with my mittens over my ears, in absolute joy at the look on my dad's face. For years afterwards, I would try to drag those plastic carolers out of the garage and try to get them to sing. My brother tried once as well, but it was not the same.  A tinge of grief here perhaps. 

For some reason, holiday stories endure.  While some are sad and some ecstatic, they all carry meaning. They have all taught us something. From Hannukah lights to Christmas trees to those who celebrate in other ways, the holidays are filled with stories.  This year let's listen. No judgement. No anger or angst. If we listen close enough, we will hear the humanity underneath, even if we do not agree.